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When we lose a pet it hurts. Awfully. There seems to be no room for anything besides pain.

Besides sadness.

Besides wishing it were different.

We cannot seem to find the emotions that are triggered by the happy memories. They are not there yet.

Or at least it seems that way.

They are there. They are underneath that grief. They are waiting to surface.

And they will.

Slowly. Or in spurts.

That emotion is there. It is wanting for you to feel it.

And you will.

The happy emotion will eventually win.

So when you feel it bubbling to the surface, if you can laugh, even make a joke, go ahead.

Allow it to start it’s progress up.

It might not be steady, you might not have any flashes of it at all right now. But I am telling you, the joy of that love will win. Love is the strongest emotion, if we let it be. It will come up and heal you of your sadness and your pain. Love remembers the happy. Love remembers the funny. Love remembers the sweet.

And we know that is the gift our pets have given us.

Love,

Alexandra

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Hello everyone.

I am just writing a quick post today. Please read my other posts to find the support you need (as I am in need myself today).

Unfortunately I have been pretty severely hacked and am worried about my site. If anyone can help me figure it out, I will trade one of the ‘bronze’ colored pet cremation urn for the assistance. It’s a wordpress hack that has made it into the rest of my site, and is adding ‘bad’ links to my pages.

If anyone can help me, I would be so appreciative.

Thank you,

Alexandra

Just because I love her:

I just got into a Facebook argument. It was about someone who was abusing puppies by leaving them in a carrier cage all day. Some of these people responded, basically, with ‘kill the person’. I suggested that he also go talk to the person. Help out. I can see why people jumped on me, as my post was short and could be misread. I didn’t elaborate, so I could get that.

But, I also know how much abuse comes from lack of education or simple unawareness. I actually think even more of it comes from not knowing/stupidity/ignorance/self-suffering than from some actual evil incarnate. That’s why there is so much of an education element in rescue organizations. Having done rescue work, I see education as being the most powerful tool we have. Over and above punishment.

I feel that to change the culture of mistreatment of animals would get us the furthest. I feel that by helping and education we can get the most benefit, as we can spread the education, and then those people can spread it even further. I watch as the kids in my neighborhood now come to me when an animal is in trouble. I also know, that before, they would have just ignored it, it wold be none of their business. But with education, it became their business.

For the example of backyard breeding, I wonder if you really were able to get through to the person, wouldn’t they give it up further? If they just got in trouble, wouldn’t they be more likely to do it again, more hidden, somewhere else? The most horrible thing I can think of is them hiding dogs in basements, never to see the light, out of fear of getting caught. But, if they really understood, learned, they would have no reason to be more secretive about it, as they would let it go.

Honestly, my first reaction is to throw them in jail right away. But, I wonder, is that (or rather only that w/o education) what really gets us the furthest?

Every person has the ability to be transformed, to become better. I just see so much more mileage in that. Both for us, and our pets.

Love,

Alexandra

p.s. This in no way means do not call Animal Control, the police, a rescue, when you see abuse. Absolutely not! Call, call, call. What this means is let’s help educate people before it comes to this. Imagine it NEVER coming to this. If we all do our part, we can make that happen.

Each dog is so very special. They are special in two ways. One, the obvious, they being the wonderful, loving creatures they naturally are. But, also, the love that they create between themselves and their humans. That love is so special and unique. I am present to that love every time I get honored to create an urn for them. It is always there. And it does not go away.

Sometimes I wish I had words so profound and meaninful to express this love, and express the specialness of these wonderful, darling creatures.

Sometimes all I can do, and maybe the best I can do, is say, “look at that face!” There is all you need to know in those eyes, in that kissable nose, that hugable face. So, please meet Molly. More than any words can say… And I am so sorry for what her family is going through.

To get to know Molly’s friends and family, especially her brother, the rescued Dozer, please visit his facebook page .

Take good care,

Alex

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I feel it has been so long since I last posted. About 2 weeks, I think. It is amazing how time can escape us. It can just slip away, almost unnoticed. It is already into February. I do not know what happened to January.

This is not how to live. Unnoticing. Catching up. Getting ahead. Later. Later. Later. We need to stop. We need to slow down. We need to get present to those around us. We don’t want to leave anything unsaid. Regrets come from actions not done. People regret what they “didn’t” do.

And the moment is now. There is no other. It is Friday night, the start of a weekend. How we choose to fill this time is all up to us.

I am going to take note of my lack of presence. I am going to choose to be with my friends. With my little Marie. I am going to stay in a place of awareness of those who I love and are around me. And those that may have passed on. I can still have them with me.

It’s Friday night. You have the whole weekend ahead of you. What can you do to really connect with your family, friends, pets? Choose that, and it will be amazing!

Love to all of you,

Alex

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I sent my sister a Christmas present, but Diva the pup decided the box was the best of all!!!

Diva in her Xmas present...

Whether a pet dies or there is a major earthquake with many people dying there is loss and pain.

It is not necessary to compare, things are going to happen in degrees, no matter what.

In any instance of loss you can find a place of strength. You need to sit quietly and listen for it.

You need to take care of yourself so that you can take care of others.

You need to take care of yourself so that you can take care of yourself.

Sit. Quiet. Take that time for yourself.

Allow yourself to feel, but don’t judge it.

Allow yourself to release those feelings.

New ones will come flooding in to replace the old. They may even be worse for a while. But allow those to pass as well. Keep doing it.

Find yourself, the part that stays the same during the passing of these feelings.

That is your strength. That is who you are.

That place of strength will allow you to get through everything you need to.

That place will allow you to stay calm as you help others.

That place is where your real healing will start.

Take the time. Check in with yourself often. Allow your feeling to be there. Just don’t hold on to them. Don’t cling. Allow them to pass. Allow new ones in. Feelings are by nature, fleeting. If we do not hold on.

Try to let your feelings pass through you, over and over again. As you let go, you will become  more aware of the ‘you’ that stays.

Take care,

Alexandra

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Here is the first in a series of videos to help you find peace after the death of your pet. I hope I can add some comfort to what you are going through right now. (It will allow you to get to know me a little bit better, as well.)

Take care and lots of love,

Alexandra

This is an endearing and beautiful short by Wojtek Wawszczyk. It is beautiful and uplifting. It can release a good cry with it’s love: